No I am not talking about the Men Without Hats song! Though that is a great song and a very bizarre video….but I digress….
When making love, we sometimes lose our heads. We get swept away in the moment and can be so consumed by passion that we forget ourselves. In fact, that is the very best kind of lovemaking! But there are times that we can hurt each other in the throes of passion and that can put us off being so open and carefree the next time.
Being creative in the bedroom is important. It’s fun to role play, talk dirty, spank, or slap or tickle. Always be creative and ask your partner what turns them on, what their fantasies are and if there’s something they’ve always wanted to try but haven’t. You can even get some ideas when in chat rooms talking to local singles!
The most important things is that you know each other’s limitations or boundaries and don’t ever push beyond them! That kind of thing can be traumatic. If someone tells you don’t tickle me when I orgasm, then really don’t tickle them when they orgasm! Having an escape plan and a safety word is very important and not just something they use for a joke on The Family Guy!
Before embarking on your fantasy-filled-sex-romps, establish the ground rules, safety word and even a double safety word, the one that means; “No babe I really mean it, you are going too far.” (Think Gerald’s game. A double safety word in that situation would’ve saved Gerald from being eaten by a dog!) Always use a word or words that you wouldn’t say during sex and that doesn’t sound like a word you would use during sex. Like British Navy or Rolodex or Coffee Cup…you get the idea. Simply saying NO isn’t sufficient because sometimes it’s fun to say no while playing!
But what if you don’t have any fantasies or ideas about how to spice up your sex life? Well kiddies, never fear, help is at hand. Here are a few pages to give you some kinky, kicky clues!