Hi there; ‘Driven to Distraction’
man, I hear ya. Being distracted by unmet urges can be really distracting. I think your answer lies in part, in your question. First develop some friendships, or one friendship. i think a lot of women might be put off by your immediate desire to add the “with benefits” part. Even someone who wants a casual, low-commitment relationship, still wants to be liked as a person. Women’s sexual openness is in direct proportion to how much they trust their partner. Some nice lady with a busy lifestyle but who wants a friend she can share intimate times with is out there for you. But think of this; would it really be so bad to be fully committed to someone anyway? Just food for thought. Make a nice, fun profile. Say you are looking for friends. Start with that. you can say one of your interests is exploring your sensuality, but don’t just ask right off for “benefits”
Being the nice, gentle guy you are, i know you will find what you are looking for.
Peace and love;