Why You're Not Receiving More Replies to Your Online Dating Profile
So you’ve signed up for an online dating, filled out your profile and uploaded a profile picture. But you’re not getting many messages and little to no replies. What the heck? This article’s all about why you’re not receiving more replies to your online dating profile and how to kick up your interest today.
The Other Person Isn’t a Paid Subscriber
First of all, it’s important to understand how most online dating websites work. If someone’s using a free trial or hasn’t paid for the service, they might not be able to send or reply to messages. And that makes total sense, because why should you choose to pay for a service when someone else expects the same level of service for free? To keep things fair, most online dating sites require that both parties be active, paying members in order to communicate.
Sometimes you send messages to free profiles without realizing it, so when you don’t get a response it can seem odd or even hurtful. But, it’s just because that person hasn’t yet subscribed to the service. Even if they might be able to read your message, they definitely can’t respond. To solve this, we recommend using a site (like Lavalife!) that only allows paid subscribers or people using all-access free trials. That way, you never get stuck in the no-response rut for that reason.
Your Profile Might be Lacking… or Your Photo Might Be All Wrong
If it’s not reason #1, then it’s probably one of the next few. The truth may very well be that you’re not receiving more replies because your profile is lacking. Did you rush through and only give the absolute minimal information mandatory? Did you upload whatever photo you found first, even though it’s a few years old and kind of blurry? If so, that could be seriously impacting your online dating experience.
A well thought-out profile with multiple, up-to-date photos will always get more results than the opposite. Take time to fill out your profile with as much information as you can and upload more than one photo that was taken within the last 12 months. And, for the love of all things dating, please don’t crop your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend out of your profile picture. If you don’t have a photo you want to use, get a friend or family member to take a new one… or take one yourself using an auto-timer.
You’re Playing the Numbers Game… and it Shows
Are you copying and pasting message after message and playing the numbers game? If so, you should stop. It’s pretty easy to tell when a user has copied and pasted the same message and sent it out to a bunch of people. The more personalized and engaging you make a message; the more likely you are to receive a response. If you’re literally sending, “Hey. You’re pretty. What’s up?” to every person you’re interested in; you’re not really putting in the effort required to get a response.
Take 60 seconds to read their profile and form a unique and personalized message. It doesn’t need to be any more complicated than “Hey! I see you’re into horseback riding. I actually used to ride when I was a teenager but haven’t gotten on a horse in ages. How’re you doing?”
You’re Expecting Immediate Results… but Online Dating Takes Time
Just like you, other online daters aren’t sitting at the computer all day long waiting to see what rolls into their inbox. They have full time jobs, friends, families and other life commitments. Maybe it’s been a couple days since they’ve logged on to check their messages or maybe they haven’t had time to hit “reply”. Things take time, so don’t give up!
You might find our article on How Long Does It Really Take to Find Love Online helpful. It gives you a better understanding of how things work in the online world and just how quickly (or slowly) things really take off.
They Might Not be Interested… and That’s Okay
Everyone has their own tastes and everybody is looking for something slightly different. The same goes for the online world as it does for the offline one, so hang tight my friend. Just because someone isn’t interested doesn’t mean that nobody will be interested. Stick with it and keep putting in the time and effort and you will get results.
Have you tried online dating? How long did it take you to get some replies? Share your experience with us in the comments!