When & Why Men Need Space
It’s important to understand why a man needs space. Although it may be rare in some cases (as most men tend to be straight forward), there’s certainly a difference between needing space in everyday life and needing space in the relationship. Either way, here five situations where you should understand why men need a little extra yardage:
5. To Spend Time With Friends
Men are simple creatures, but their evolution demands that they keep their relationship self and friendship self separate from one another. A man needs space to spend time with his friends to eat pizza, be silly and call each other bad names. If you prevent him from seeing his friends, he has no way of taking a break from pretending that he cares what the Kardashians are up to.
4. To Think About The Relationship
It should come as no surprise that “needing space” is usually bad news for a relationship and tough times are around the corner. There comes a time for many men where he must decide if he wants to date someone “full time” (that’s why he’s been acting distant up to this point). The options here are to try to convince him or let him feel the slow burn of what it’s like to not be with you.
3. For Work
Imagine trying to work with your best friends socializing, drinking and having an overall great time around you. Well, that’s what it’s like for men (and women alike) when they have work responsibilities they need to finish up, while you’re around. Having a significant other around can be distracting, so when duty calls, you’ve got to give him the space he needs to handle his business.
2. You Call Too Much
Some like a little clinginess, but if you’re calling every waking minute, it’s probably because you have separation/abandonment issues. If you think you’re calling too much, you probably are, especially if you really don’t have much to say. It’s not unheard of for a couple who are head over heels to call each other up a lot, but make sure you’re not mobile-y smothering him.
1. He Wants To Work On Himself
Most of the time after a breakup both parties reflect on why the relationship went south, and how to better themselves for the next one. If he needs space, it could be because he sees himself as lacking in a certain area (i.e. no job/no money) and he cannot treat you right, for which he believes you may eventually leave him. If this is the case, you should explain to him you want to be there and grow together… if that is what you want.
More times than not, men don’t need extra space if the relationship’s healthy. In fact, taking space often leads to breakups and some work will be required to get through things back on track. If your man needs space, find the root of the problem and find a solution. A breakup isn’t always a bad thing, but if you can work things out that’s even better. Good luck!