You’re at a bar, and you see someone you’re attracted to that’s not the waitress. So you think, “I’m gonna go over and say hi just as soon as I finish this beer. And this Jager shot. And this other beer.”
Then, before you can act, Joe Computer Game Designer comes along and starts chatting up your love of the evening.
If this situation is too close to home, it might be time to consider an alternative.