It’s been stated time and time again – men in their 30s are much different than their 20-something selves, and it’s true!
Do you feel as though your partner is ready to settle down, get married and have kids… but you’re just not there? Or, do you feel like you’re getting pressured by friends and family to settle down because of your age, relationship or anything else? At the end of the day, you know yourself best and should be living your life at your own pace – and on your own terms.
1. You’re Financially Stable
Money is one of the number one things that married couples fight about. When you get married, you’re not only making a life commitment, but also a financial commitment. Your debts become her debts and vice versa. Before you pop the question, make sure you have open and honest conversations about your financial situations.
It’s almost impossible to get your boyfriend to propose without pressuring him in some way, but if you’re tired of waiting and want that question popped now, here are a few ideas.
Me and my girlfriend (Tish) have been dating for 5 months. We’re both in our early 30s and went into the relationship not really knowing where it was headed, but now I think she is the one for me. My guy friends say it’s too soon to propose or get married, but I just KNOW she is the one. I don’t know if I can wait anymore I am so excited. Is 5 months too early to get engaged?
Feeling stressed? Worried that your blood pressure may be soaring? The media have a solution for you — get married! You’ve seen the headlines:
“Marriage may lower blood pressure.”
“Walk down the aisle for lower blood pressure, but be happy!”
What you haven’t seen, if you have relied on summaries of the relevant study by ABC, CNN, MSNBC, the Associated Press, or just about any other media source, are the actual results of the study.
Here’s What the Blood Pressure Study Really Did Show
And for most of us, it comprises a huge and very influential chunk of our social life in our late teens and throughout our 20s.
Unless your surname is Clooney, however, sooner or later you’re apt to want to settle into something a little more permanent – co-habitation for example, and maybe even marriage and starting a family.
But any such decision raises a host of other questions, not least this little jewel: how will I know for sure if the person I am in a relationship with is the right person to forge a future with? Dilemmas come and dilemmas go but none are as potentially fraught as untangling yourself from the wrong life partner.
If you’re thinking about a long-term commitment, should you sign something so your partner doesn’t wind up with your family heirlooms and half of your cat?
Along with vetting your date through Google, testing for STDs, and finding out if your partner believes the Mayans were descended from an alien race, the pre-nup has become one of the cornerstones of modern romance.
Things might be hunky-dory in the honeymoon stage, but we’ve all heard enough stories of true love gone awry to know that one day the pheremonal rush wears off, replaced by a loathing for the way the person you live with brushes their teeth.