Archive for First Date tag

notthatintoyou

5 Lessons Learned from “He’s Just Not That Into You”

Remember the 2009 movie, He’s Just Not That Into You? Or, maybe you remember the book that inspired the movie (same title), penned by Liz Tuccillo and Greg Behrend? Either way, there are some lessons in love to be learned from the story. While we’ll admit we were a little distracted by the gorgeous cast, a second watch gave us ample opportunity to pull away some hard love lessons.

In this post, we’re sharing our five lessons to be learned from the film. Listen up, because they might just change your (love) life forever.

Read more...

How to Date Efficiently

How to date efficientlyWhat do I mean by “efficiently”? I mean dating to uncover maximum compatibility with minimum time and effort. It benefits neither of you to spin your wheels with someone you haven’t got a snow ball’s chance in Hell of lasting with. If your mission in dating is to lead to a long-term intimate relationship, this article is for you.

1) Don’t Try to be Impressive

“Eden, how am I going to get their attention if they’re not impressed with me?”
It’s simple. Be authentic – let THAT be the impression. If your date is comfortable with who you are from day-to-day, then they’re much more likely to want more. If you put on a “representative” because you think your date will like that better – you may very well be right.

Read more...

Best Summer Date Spots

Couple at summer date spotWhile summer weather may only be here for a short while longer, you’ve still got some time to find someone to enjoy the fresh air and outdoor patios with. In this post, I’ll be talking about some of the best summer date spots so you can soak in that last bit of warmth and sun before it’s gone and you’re stuck indoors.

Picture this scenario: you mustered up the guts to ask her out and she said yes! Now you’ve got to know what to do next, where to go, and where to take her.

Hopefully you don’t ruin your chances of getting a second date by choosing the wrong first date venue. While whether your personalities click or not is the #1 indication of how well your date will go, the date and location of your date is a close #2.

The wrong location can end the date before you even get to show off your personality.

Read more...

First Date Advice For Women

girl smilingIf you are getting ready to go on a first date – or have already endured a few disaster scenarios – then I’ve got some basic tips to help you out!

Whether it takes you a nerve-wracking couple of hours to prepare – or you just throw yourself together – you need to remember that a first date is not a major life event. Sure, you could be meeting the love of your life but more likely you are not. From my experience and from the thousands of singles that have shared their dating stories with me, the avid dater in search of a “keeper” will go on many first dates! Better to relax and enjoy the ride. Be sure to also read up on our first date do’s and don’ts.

Tip 1 – Have fun and smile a lot!

The first rule of thumb is to always have a positive attitude and to have fun in every situation. Smiles are contagious, and men often comment about a woman’s smile. It is a very attractive quality for men, because it all boils down to what makes him feel good. Ladies: Knowing that a smile is important, I would do whatever I could to highlight and showcase that beautiful smile. Great oral hygiene is a must! I would absolutely recommend teeth whitening for women who smoke. There is nothing less attractive than staring into someone’s mouth and noticing discolored teeth or smelling bad breath.

Tip 2 – Show confidence

All of our dating research identifies feeling good about yourself, being confident and comfortable in the dating arena as highly important. You can build confidence by working on the skills and areas you need to improve. Maybe you are a bit shy and need to work on better communication skills or asking more questions. It could be that you talk too much and have to learn to be quiet and avoid interrupting. As a woman who is full of ideas and used to doing a lot of talking, that’s something I am constantly working on. Genuinely feeling good about yourself means that you are doing all the things that make you feel good, and you can’t be attractive to a man when your own self-worth needs improvement.

Tip 3 – Feel pretty

Men are very visual creatures and they like feminine women. It’s always safer to select an outfit that leans towards a “feminine and fun” look rather than one that’s too conservative or overtly sexual. You don’t have to expose everything on your first date to make him interested, and a lot of men have confessed how they undress women and imagine what’s under their clothes. It makes it more mysterious and exciting.

If you take the time to feel pretty, men will appreciate that and notice you for making the effort. Be cautious not to drown yourself in strong perfume as some people have allergies or are put off by certain scents. Maybe you want to treat yourself to a new lipstick or lip gloss or buy a new mascara to highlight those beautiful eyes! Wearing the right amount of makeup is important to making a good impression on your first date as well. Ask a beauty consultant at your local drug store or department store for tips on colors that match your skin tone and personality.

Tip 4 – Relax

Lots of women admit to being very nervous before a date. They tend to be even more anxious if it has been a long time since they’ve been on a date or if it’s a date with someone they’re very excited about. Try not to set yourself up for failure and keep your expectations in check. A great way to relax before a date is to do something stress-relieving. Depending on the time of the date, you may want to go to the gym or treat yourself to a manicure and pedicure. Schedule a massage or relax at home and read a self-help book. Listen to some calm music or do some yoga.

The intention is to not overwhelm yourself playing out the date, planning everything you are going to say and do like it’s dress rehearsal for opening night.  Be as comfortable and natural as possible. Don’t try to take on too many extra things before date night. Only do activities that are fun and stress-free to invite relaxation.

Tip 5 – Don’t talk too much

Ladies: first dates are not counseling sessions. He’ll think you have a loose screw if you spill the beans too soon. Do not engage in deep relationship conversation or anything negative for your first date! Keep it light, keep your focus on asking great questions and taking an interest in what your date likes. Men love attention. Be a better listener than storyteller.

Dating can be a fun and rewarding experience if you allow it to be. Appreciate the opportunities and take each date as chance to practice becoming a better dater and more attractive person. That way, you will be on your way to finding, meeting and keeping the one!

Read more...

The Secret to Acing Your Date

First ImpressionsWe’d all like to think there is some magic formula to having a fantastic date. Yet the best dating advice is probably found in a kernel of wisdom handed down by your Mom: mind your Ps and Qs and treat others as you wish to be treated.

Yup, the secret to boosting your dating odds is plain old good manners.

Proper comportment never gets old. Not only do manners reveal you as a classy and thus highly desirable date, they also serve as a balm for the potentially nervous spirit of your partner.
Certainly, bad manners (think interrupting conversation or accepting cell calls mid-date) broadcast a lack of grace. But good manners can be subtle. Win big points with your date just by practicing some common courtesies. Here’s how…
Read more...

First Date Is The Worst. Second Date Is The Best.

girl eating lunchWe’ve all been on bad dates.

Of course, some are less “bad” than others.

In 2005, I went on a first date to a Mexican restaurant for dinner.  (That was the first mistake.  You can always add dinner, but you can’t take it back.)

My date was, for lack of better words, pretty darn boring.

I consider myself to be an engaging person who can talk to just about anyone, but there were silences, and awkward ones at that.  As I tore through my fajitas, I was planning in my head what I would say for the next half an hour at least.

Read more...

Kissed Off Before the First Kiss

girl points to cheek smallYou left the date with a spring in your step, thinking that the lovely creature you just had dinner with could in fact be The One.  You didn’t get a first kiss. Heck, you haven’t heard from her at all.

You talked for hours, she laughed at your jokes and everything was great. There’s just one problem: For some reason she isn’t returning your calls and you have no idea why.

“It’s the little things women tend to notice most when they’re first getting to know someone,” explains Alexa Joy Sherman, co-author of The Happy Hook-Up: A Single Girl’s Guide to Casual Sex. “If a guy fails at those little things, he may be in for a rude awakening when his date abruptly loses interest.”

You don’t need to remain clueless as to where you went wrong. Here are the top five reasons why women give men the kiss off after date number one and how to stop it happening on your next date. Our results may not be scientific, but they totally can’t hurt.

Read more...

When You Meet a Match Offline

woman looking backOnline dating has created a unique situation.

It’s now just as easy to fall for someone two cities away or across the globe as it is to fall for the guy or girl next door.

But meeting an online date out of town and in person poses some special dating and safety concerns. What’s the protocol when that fantastic guy or woman you met online lives four states or provinces away?

Read more...
Load More
10 of 14