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Getting Cold Feet in a Relationship

Normally, the term “cold feet” comes up when you’re talking about pre-wedding jitters. But new couples can get cold feet too, especially if they’ve been single for a while or if they’ve been badly hurt in the past. What you might not realize is that you can get cold feet even if you’re crazy about your new partner. That’s because it’s a self-defense mechanism. Our brains instinctively avoid change, and a new relationship is a big change.

Below are five symptoms of cold feet, and how to treat them.


Advice for Women Who Are Dating More Than One Guy

dating more 2Dating is like going to a candy store.  Each time you try a different piece to see which one you like the best.  Some look enticing on the outside until you unwrap and taste it only to discover it wasn’t what you thought.  Others may not look so great displayed on the shelf, but once you try it you realize that it is your favorite and you keep going back for more!

“Playing the field” in dating Candyland is actually a healthy way to discover not only who is right for you, but also a great way to get to know yourself in the process.  When I coach clients I always explain my theory of dating as having several phases.  The first phase is the courting phase where it should be light and fun while getting to know various people.


My Boyfriend is Moving Away. Should I Stop Him?

Kallie from Atlanta asks…Lava365 Ask the Expert

I love my boyfriend of 4 years but he’s pursuing a career change (he’s 22) and it’s something I don’t agree with.

I don’t think my parents really like that he’s moving away from the medical field and into agriculture. Should I be worried that his decision will tear us apart? I think he wants to go to a university 2 hours away for grad school and I don’t think I could make the move for him. Help please!


How do I Avoid Being a Clingy Dater?

Alyssa from St. Johns asks…Lava365 Ask the Expert

I dated a guy from [an online dating site] and it was nice. He has 3 kids and a good relationship with his ex-wife. He left me because he thought I was too clingy. I accept that and have learned to do better about getting too close to men. But what should I do differently if I’m looking for a relationship and fulfilling my “needs” as a woman? Men take that as a hook up and I’m not in college anymore, how do I find a man and not seem too clingy if that’s what I want?


I Can’t Stand my Boyfriend’s Parents. How Can I Change This?

Elle from Milton asks…Lava365 Ask the Expert

I’ll just come out and say it. I can’t stand my boyfriend’s family. They’re obnoxious, put me on the spot all the time, and are SO controlling of everything he does. I’ve asked him to stick up for me and have my back several times but he never actually does anything when the time comes. I love him and really want to be with him but I can’t imagine having to see his family at every holiday for the rest of my life. Is there anything else I can do but shut up and deal with it?


I Met a Guy But he Doesn’t Speak my Language. Could it Ever Work?

Holly from Dorval asks…Lava365 Ask the Expert

I’m English speaking but living in Quebec for work. I’ve met a gorgeous guy and have gone on a few dates with him, but he speaks almost only French and communication is definitely a problem. If we don’t speak the same language but there’s a spark, is there any hope for us? I’m going to French classes for my job which will help me a bit, but it’s a problem right now. Help!

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