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When to Call it Quits

You’ve been chatting with someone online for a couple of months now. You really enjoy the conversation and you perhaps even think about them when you’ve had a little bit too much to drink. But, when it comes down to actually making plans to meet you have a habit of initially agreeing and then backing out last minute.

You may have begun to think, ‘is there something wrong with me?’


I Think I Might Want My Ex-Girlfriend Back, But Do I?

Joe from Montreal asks…Lava365 Ask the Expert

I recently got out of a relationship with my girl of 4 months and I’m heartbroken. I think I fell in love with her. She said I was not as committed as she was and that I am not supportive in her job. She works late night as a bartender and I don’t see why she broke up with me if she’s the one who is always busy and working. It’s been 2 weeks since the breakup. Should I send her flowers and apologize?

Joe, I feel for you. The period immediately following a breakup involves pain, a sense of loss, confusion, frustration and anger.  It is never easy and no one can prepare you for the flood of thoughts and feelings that dominate every moment.   The idea of having the person back in your life seems like a refuge from the deep sense of loss.

I know you feel the urge to contact your ex-girlfriend and talk to her about what happened.  I know you want the chance to connect and see her one more time. I know you want to find ways to make her demanding work schedule sync up with your relationship expectations.

I know. We’ve all been there.

Before you rush to the local florist, I urge you to give this matter of the heart more time. In fact, I think you should give it more in the ballpark of two months.   Give yourself time to adjust and consider your options.  Use the time apart to consider your feelings, the direction of the relationship and what you need in your life right now.  It may or may not be her.

In relationships, just as in life, it takes time to adjust to a new routine and see positive results.  Think of it as a new workout or trying to add more green leafy products to your diet.  It seems like hard, painful work as first that eventually, if you persist, will yield positive results.

Trust me and take the time.


He was Treating me Like a Queen…And Then He Just Vanished

Kathy from Kitchener asks…Lava365 Ask the Expert


I am trying to find peace over the guy who came on SO strong (it’s exactly what you describe). I was hesitant…we were moving too fast… he was in constant contact, treating me like a queen, and then without warning, he vanished. He even ignored two of my text messages. I don’t want a guy who behaves like this back—what I want is to find peace. I’m obsessing over him and the situation, and I want to stop.


How do I Know if my Breakup was a Mistake?

Erik from London asks…How do I know if my breakup was a mistake?

A few weeks ago I broke up with my girlfriend. I sort of had a panic attack and just thought we were moving too fast and everything was happening too soon. She was talking about living together and how we would get married one day and all this. Ever since I haven’t been able to stop thinking about her and think I made a big mistake. She was really mad at me and cried a lot when it all happened and I don’t know what to do now. How can I get her back?

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