5 Signs That You’re Just Not Compatible
Are you and your partner truly compatible? How can you know for sure? Here’s a good place to start: check out the 5 signs that you’re just not compatible.
1. You Never Work On Your Relationship
Some psychologists say that there’s no such thing as a magic compatibility formula; that is, it’s impossible to find the one person who complements your interests and completes your personality. Instead, compatibility is a long-term relationship goal that comes from hard work. If the two of you aren’t willing to put in the work, you won’t be compatible.
2. It’s All About Sex
Many couples confuse sexual compatibility with overall compatibility. Just because you have good sexual chemistry doesn’t mean you have a good relationship. In fact, if you find yourself spending more time in bed than you do in conversation, or out in public doing PG activities, you’re probably not compatible.
3. You Disagree On The Big Things
While having common interests definitely helps a relationship, it means nothing if you’re not on the same page about the big issues. According to relationship coach Aaron Kaplan, if you don’t agree on things like having children or religious beliefs and aren’t willing to compromise on them, then you probably don’t have a future together.
4. You’re Not Interested In Each Other’s Lives
People in great relationships know everything that’s going on in their partners’ lives, because they share everything with each other. If your relationship isn’t working, you may find yourself keeping things from your partner because you know they won’t care. Or on the flip-side, you may find yourself tuning out your partner when they start talking about their lives.
5. You Bring Out The Worst In Each Other
Take a moment to reflect on the person you were, and the person you are now. Are you happier? Is your life more fulfilling than before you met? Are you in a place you hoped you would be, and do you feel capable of achieving your goals? Relationships can either support and encourage you, or they can drag you down. If your answer to these questions is a consistent “no,” it might not be working out.
Being compatible means respecting and supporting each other, and being invested in each other’s lives. It might take work to get there, but it’s worth it.