We asked women who have been cheated on in the past what advice they’d give to women who are currently dealing with a recent breakup or a stressful relationship because of cheating. Here’s what they had to say:
Sarah—“Listen to your intuition.”
I would have all of the evidence in the world, except his confession and still want to give my ex the benefit of the doubt. It’s not easy to accept something you know will break your heart. Don’t make the same mistake I did. 9 times out 10, my intuition has been right. If you feel like a guy is cheating on you that’s because he probably is; and if not, then there’s something he’s not telling you about how he feels about your relationship. Whichever the case, do exactly what your gut is telling you to do, do exactly what you would do if your intuition was right. I promise that you won’t regret it and you’ll be happier in the long run.
Ana—“He’ll Never Change.”
Don’t fool yourself. If a man cheats, then he’ll do it again… and again. Regardless of what excuse he gives you for cheating, he did it because a. he’s unhappy with the relationship b. you’re not his ideal woman and he wants to explore other options, while keeping you as his safe blanket c. he’s an inconsiderate pig.
Rebecca—“Don’t be afraid of change.”
Change opens up opportunities for bigger and better things. If your significant other is cheating on you and you don’t do anything about it then you’ll always be stuck in that situation. You should never let it get to the point where you’re so used to feeling insecure, stressed and unloved that you begin to think those feelings are normal in a relationship. When you meet a man who makes you feel secure, happy and loved, you’ll regret not leaving your ex sooner.
If you have any questions for Sarah, Ana or Rebecca, then simply leave it in the comments below and we’ll have them get back to you in a future blog post.
*The name of each woman has been changed for obvious reasons.
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