When writing your online dating profile, it can be all too tempting to stretch the truth. Heck, it can be tempting to create your dream alter ego – why not, right? The thing about stretching the truth in online dating is that the end goal of online dating is to eventually take the relationship offline. Don’t you think it’s going to be awkward when your date notices you aren’t the 5 foot 8 glamazon with a permanent tan and elbow-length tresses that you claimed to be?
Luckily, there are some fool-proof ways to develop an awesome online dating profile without having to resort to fibbing. In fact, writing an awesomely authentic dating profile might even help you to see yourself in a different, better and more interesting light!
Read on to learn how to write your best online dating profile, working only with the truth.
Step One: Get in the Mood
Get your mind out of the gutter! We’re talking about getting in the mood to see yourself as the amazing, interesting and celebration-worthy person you are. When you start to see yourself the way you want others to perceive you, you’re definitely on the track to happiness.
We recommend getting mentally prepared to create a great online dating profile by putting on a nice outfit, applying your favourite lipstick and prepping your most delicious cup of tea or coffee. Feeling as though you’re ready to work is going to put you in the mind set you’ll need in order to stay focused and tell the story you want to tell.
Step Two: Upload Your Photo First
Before you write anything, make sure you upload your favourite photo of yourself. Click here for our professional tips on capturing a terrific photo if you need some help! Having a photo uploaded will give you something to refer to, visually, and will keep you from straying off the path of authenticity. If you’re feeling tempted to get a little creative with your descriptions, quickly scroll back up and check out your photo to remind yourself of who you really are.
Step Three: Talk About What You Love and What You Want – Not the Negatives
Never, ever include a laundry list of all the things you hate and all the qualities you don’t look for in a partner. That’s the whole point of using online dating and being able to filter your matches based on specific criteria! Not to mention that including such a list will have you sounding like a Negative Nancy in no time. Nobody likes Negative Nancy.
Talking about your passions, goals and desires is so much more attractive than ranting about all the things you hate about life, people or past relationships. Communicating positives gives your potential matches the impression that you’re a happy, enjoyable person to be around and to chat with – and you’ve got to start with chatting if you want to get anywhere else.
Step Four: Talk Like a Person, Not Like a Thesaurus
With online dating, you want to find a way to stand out from the crowd and show off your personality. BUT, that doesn’t mean you should write a profile filled with terms you’ve looked up in the thesaurus. Write like you actually speak. If you don’t use phrases like “fine dining” and “maximizing potential”, then don’t use that sort of language.
Let yourself shine with your personality and passions. Avoid using words in the wrong context or sounding like you’re trying too hard by sticking with words you use daily. Plus, it will be far less intimidating for your matches to strike up a conversation with you!
Step Five: Proofread, then Proofread Again
After you’ve written your profile, take a moment to proofread and spell check. Ask yourself, “do I come across as positive, happy and approachable?” Then, ask yourself, “does this profile accurately represent who I am as a person and what I want out of life?” If the answer is no, then it’s time to go back in and tackle the sections you need to rewrite. Don’t sweat it if you don’t ace it the first time, most people do end up having to take a crack or two at it before they’re 100% happy with their profile.
Once you’re all set, it never hurts to ask a friend or family member to read through your profile. They may offer a more objective opinion on whether your profile accurately describes you, and they might also be able to suggest different qualities to include. We tend to be our own worst critics, so we always recommend having a friend check out your profile before you hit “publish” to make sure you’re really letting your accomplishments and personality shine through.
We want to know… are you happy with your current online dating profile? Let us know if you found it easy or hard to write yours, and feel free to share your own tips to writing a great profile!
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