Dealing with the family and friends of your beloved can be tricky. Sometimes it can downright end a relationship. No matter how much you love or like or lust after someone, sometimes the baggage is just too heavy.
So to prevent that from happening let’s find out some ways to deal with drama. Even when on chat lines looking for local singles, you often hear people lament about not getting along with their special someone’s sister, mother, brother, room-mate etc.
Well one reason this can happen is people are often attracted to other people who are similar in personality to those they love. And sadly too much in common can be a bit of a negative thing, especially if you are competing for the attentions or affections of the same person.
Well first off, don’t compete! When you find yourself in the company of your sweeties’ family or friend who rubs you the wrong way, don’t rub back!. Let your punkin’ spend time and give attention to their sister or roommate, after all YOU are the one who gets to go home with them…and hopefully snuggle all night long, so why worry? You won’t lose anything by gracefully letting the ‘competition’ bask in the love of their friend or family member for the few hours you will be in their company.
Try to have some sympathy for the situation as well. Now that you are the special someone, you are probably taking up time that used to be spent with their fave bro or roomie or son or daughter. So be gracious, be magnanimous, encourage them to share themselves freely with everyone who loves them and you will look like the warm and generous person you are and not an attention vampire (that maybe you want to be!)
Also show some interest in them yourself. Ask them questions about themselves, their jobs, their other friends, their interests and more. Not all at once of course. Pay attention and make mental notes to remember to ask them next time you see them. You can say; how did that job interview go? Did you wear the blue tie? Or the red one with the dog bones on it? Hey boyfriends mom, how did the ptlick go? Did your crispy tofu get all eaten up?
And above all don’t forget their names!
It’s a lot of give I know, to become beloved by the other half’s family and friends but in the end it will be worth it.
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