Over 30% of children in the US are raised by single parents, and those parents deserve love too. However, the rules are a little different.
How do you balance dating with the quality time you need to spend with your children, and the attention you have to give your profession? It can be tough – I know! I do it too. Don’t worry, I have you covered.
Here are my tips for dating as a single parent:
1. Get Online
Online dating is the single most convenient way to look for love! As a single parent, you may be unable to go out as often as your single childless friends. Online dating allows you to meet people without even leaving the house. There are even sites that cater specifically to single parents, although all of the popular sites have been successful for my clients with children too!
2. Make the Time
Having kids can be very time consuming! Make sure you are ready to make time to date before you jump in. Ready for a new relationship? Set time aside to grow that relationship and spend time with your new partner. If you can’t commit to spending 1-2 days/nights a week with a special someone, you may need to reassess for now.
3. Be Upfront
Having kids will not be a turnoff to the right person! Be honest and upfront that you have children. Spend the majority of the conversation talking about YOU and your interests, but always be honest.
4. Tell your Friends
Your friends can often be your best resource for meeting people. Let them know you are looking to meet someone. They already know and love you, and may have just the right person in mind for you to meet.
5. Never Ignore Red Flags Because you are Lonely
This applies to all singles, but even more so for those with kids. It can be temping to ignore signs of trouble for the promise of happiness, but you can’t. If they seem abusive, to have a substance abuse issue, or possess any other damaging characteristics, move on.
You may be tempted to be the one to “help” them, but you can’t. The risk is too great.
6. No Meet and Greets
For a while. Only introduce them to your children when you know it’s permanent. I’ve had clients that brought their first date home to meet the kids. Depending on their age (especially under 18), this is confusing and damaging.
Vet them yourself first. Make sure they are who you think they are, and make sure they plan on sticking around.
Most of all, have FUN!