Often times we are exchanging winks and flirty messages online but we don’t know how to engage in an actual conversation. I believe you need to keep things really simple and to the point. Don’t sit in front of your computer composing a perfect, essay-worthy email highlighting all your best attributes. Save that for your first phone conversation. All you want to do is make it obvious you are interested in getting to know her more, on a deeper level. Say just that!
An example would be, “I’ve really been enjoying our fun, flirty messages and I want to know more about you. I’m happy to answer any questions you might have for me but a question I have for you is, what made you decide to move to ‘your city’?” Personalize this example however you like, but the key is you are showing her you are intrigued and want to get to know her on a more intellectual level.
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