You’ve been chatting with someone online for a couple of months now. You really enjoy the conversation and you perhaps even think about them when you’ve had a little bit too much to drink. But, when it comes down to actually making plans to meet you have a habit of initially agreeing and then backing out last minute.
You may have begun to think, ‘is there something wrong with me?’
And the truth is… there’s nothing wrong with you.
It’s just time for you to realize that you’re probably just not that into them. All the while, you’ve been fooling yourself (and them too). Before they begin to question themselves it’s time you understand that this one is probably better to leave behind.
That isn’t to say you can’t continue talking. You just have to confront your feelings and be honest with not only yourself but the other person involved so they can put an end to the idea of eventually meeting one day; unless it’s as friends of course.
You now have two options to consider.
Either continuing the friendship that you have already established or agree that although it was nice “meeting” each other (albeit online) you both believe its best you move forward with no hard feelings. In most cases the door will completely shut. However; if remaining friends is the case for you, get to know them even better to find out what it is they are truly looking for.
If you originally thought they were good enough for you than they are likely worth sharing with a friend. Besides, we all know how difficult it can be to find someone you really hit it off with online and especially someone you can trust right off the bat. And if they aren’t looking for anything too serious at the moment then you can find something else you have in common to talk about besides online dating.
Confronting your feelings and being true to yourself is fair to the other person and will only make you find what you are looking for faster without these barriers. At the end of the day, nothing is lost from a situation like this. Only lessons are learned about the experiences of online dating you may eventually encounter one day for yourself.
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