Are Girls Really Uninterested or Just Being Polite?

man scratching head smallMatt from Albany asks:

“Recently I’ve had a lot of girls say after a first date that they just aren’t ready to be dating, is this a “polite” way for her saying she just isn’t interested?



Hi Matt:

Sorry to say, but more often than not, this is a ‘polite’ way of saying they are not interested. How do I know? They said it after the first date, not the 10th date.

Now let’s talk about how you can change this. First, accept that someone expressing they are not interested in you can often be a good thing. This may sound counter-intuitive, however, they could be saving you a ton of time in trying to find a connection that just simply isn’t there.

Second, start looking for clues on why things are ending after the first date. How does the pre-date conversation go? How do you prep for your dates the day-of? Where are your dates located? How long do they last? What do you talk about? Do you feel confident and at ease or are you antsy or needy? You are looking for clues to see at what point women are consistently disconnecting from you.

Don’t be too hard on yourself. This is a process of self-reflection that will lead you to better quality matches.


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