6 Things you Should Never Say to a Single Woman
Being single can definitely have its perks, you have time to devote to your friends and passions, you can be sexually adventurous, you can explore and get to know yourself… but that’s a post unto itself. Right now we’re talking about the downside of being single aka the sad pats on the arm from relatives, the bold declarations from friends that your true love is right around the corner and the self-doubt that can sneak into the psyche of even the most confident of lassies. How can you help, dear reader/friend/family member of this solo member of society? Well, you can start by enforcing these 6 things you should never say to a single woman.
1. “When you meet the one, you’ll know”
Hey you. Yes you, the well-meaning coupled up friend staring at your single friend sadly over a glass of wine. I realize you’re only worried for her well-being and moral soul but maybe she’s enjoying dating the string of one night stands and struggling musicians. Everyone is different and not always on the lookout for the “one”. Keep in mind that maybe your single girl friend is enjoying that freedom and even if she’s not, please don’t remind her about this unattainable and unquantifiable feeling that all you couples seem to magically possess.
2. “Oh… That’s okay”
Thank you for your sympathetic response to singledom, your thinly veiled pretense that you agree with your friend’s single life choices, and your implication that without your consent it was somehow “not okay”.
3. “Don’t be so picky”
Just because your friends isn’t willing to date any Joe-shmoe that comes along, doesn’t mean her standards are too high.
4. “Maybe if you tried something different with your hair..?”
If your single friend is having a down day and looking for advice on her love life, the last thing you should do is pick apart her looks. As if her self-confidence wasn’t shot already! A handy tip? Always aim to build your friend up and reiterate the positive.
5. “Time is ticking” This has a few connotations, all of which your single friend does not want to hear. Whether you’re referring to her biological clock or the fact that if she waits too long all the ‘good ones’ will be snapped up, guaranteed she doesn’t appreciate the sentiment.
6. “Are you really putting yourself out there?”
Again, we’re looking for positive reinforcement here. Asking a question with a negative inference implies that she is doing something wrong. She’s putting herself out there and doing her best to navigate the messy, often fun, but sometimes disheartening ocean that is dating, be supportive.