5 Things You Should Know about Dating a Single Father
Dating a single father (or mother) will always have inherited risks attached. Getting too attached to the kids or the kids getting too attached to the person in question too soon, underestimating the amount of responsibility required and having to prioritize their needs are all possible negative outcomes. But you can avoid the risks of dating a single father with these five things:
5. He’ll Probably Take Things Slow
If he has kids, it’s likely he knows what it takes to get to that point and isn’t looking to jump into the deep end again right away. He’s not stupid either; he knows most single women don’t want to get involved with children, so he’s not going to push you into anything. Consider making a move (either for him or the door) if you want to speed things along.
4. Kids = Serious
Don’t want to be a mom? Make it clear you aren’t looking to be the next Angelina Jolie. People with children aren’t impervious to having a fling, so enjoy it at your own risk of getting attached. Do your best to avoid the kids if you don’t want to be serious as the last thing you want is them asking their dad “Why doesn’t she come to see us anymore?”
3. Baby Mamma Drama
It’s highly likely that his kids’ mom is still in the picture. If things get serious, meeting her will be inevitable. Another tidbit to note is that your man will likely need to vent every so often about how much his ex-wife/girlfriend annoys him. In these situations, it’s best to just sympathize, rather than roll your eyes.
2. You’re Not Going To Be #2 All The Time
Many women shy away from dating a single father because they feel they’ll never be put first. False. Just like in a relationship where both parties are the parents, it is important to make time to put yourself first. Yes, it is vital to be responsible when caring for children, but dating a single father doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to take you out on the town and have a great time. In fact, he’ll probably enjoy it even more since he’s been cooped up watching Dora the Explorer for the last six weeks.
1. He Might Not Want More Kids
So he’s got one, two maybe three kids of his own already and he may want to stop there, he may not. This is a very important discussion point if things are going to get serious. He could love the idea of having a child with you, or he may not want to collect Air Miles each holiday season visiting every one of his kids’ relatives. Never assume, if things are moving along you need to have this talk.