5 Things You Should Never Bring Up On a First Date
We talk a lot about first dates here – because the first meeting can be a complex and scary situation and we like to give you as much help as possible in navigating this very uncertain territory.
When embarking on a first date, relax and let the fact that you know almost nothing about each other guide the conversation, there are so many topics to choose from! But the following five are ones you should try to avoid:
1. Your Ex
Talking about an ex means you’re either still hung up or you’re completely jaded. In either case you’re holding this new guy up to an impossible standard and beating his ego down.
One time, a guy asked me explicitly when my last boyfriend was and if I was over him. I thought it was a) none of his damn business and b) signified to me that he was already taking this way more seriously than I was. I politely let him know a few days later that there was no chemistry for me and that I wasn’t interested in seeing him again.
First dates are supposed to be enjoyable! Dragging down the atmosphere by appearing negative and that nothing in your life is worth smiling about will make him reconsider asking you on a second date. Granted we all have bad days, so if the day leading up to your planned date wasn’t the greatest, be sure to take a few deep breaths before meeting. If it helps, list off in your head 3 things you are thankful for, it will put you in a better and more open state of mind.
3. Money Woes
This is one of the leading points of contention and a top fight starter between couples – why throw that stress into your first meeting?
I’ll say it – poop jokes are always funny. But for the first date, leave that up to the comedian he took you to see. First dates are that magical moment when we are still perfect humans who never pass gas. Allow yourself to live in that dream for one sweet, smell-free moment
5. Harsh Judgements
Maybe you’re not down with his plan to freelance caricature on the street. But put your prejudices aside and ask if drawing has always been a passion of his. Maybe he forgot to cut the tack off the flap of the new dinner jacket he bought for this occasion or is wearing a pair of chinos you’d normally prefer in a slimmer cut. Remember that both parties are nervous on a first date and trying to put their best self forward. Please hold all comments until you can safely gossip with girlfriends. But for goodness sake, tell the poor guy when he’s got a piece of spaghetti stuck to his cheek.