Online dating has become socially acceptable (and why wouldn’t it be?!), which means more and more people are flocking to their online dating website of choice each day. For you, that means a ton of new potential suitors – but it also means that you need to keep your eye out for certain online dating red flags.
While most online dating websites have stringent policies in place to protect their users against fraudulent or malicious activity, you as an online dater do need to be armed with the knowledge necessary to ensure your online dating experience is as smooth and trouble-free as possible. This post is all about arming you with that knowledge, and making sure you know what red flags to watch out for.
1. They Ask for Money
Whenever someone hints at needing money or comes right out and asks for money (no matter WHAT the reason may be), you need to run the other way. Click “block”, “report”, “delete” or whatever functionality may be available to you and never look back. The people who ask for money online are usually professional scam artists. They know exactly what to say and when to strike – you’ve got to stay one step ahead of them and protect yourself.
If anyone ever asks you for money on Lavalife.com, please immediately report their profile to customer care. We take our customers’ safety and security very seriously!
2. They Repeatedly Cancel on In-Person Dates
There are a number of reasons why someone you find online may repeatedly cancel in-person dates, and none of them are great. They might not be serious about finding someone or taking a relationship offline. They could be lying about themselves. They might already be in a long term relationship. Whatever the actual reason may be, you don’t need to stick around to find out. You’re worth SO much more than that, so don’t waste your energy on someone who isn’t putting in the effort.
3. They Pressure You to Meet at Their Place, or Yours
Everyone knows (or should know!) that the only place to meet an offline date for the first time is somewhere public. The area should be well-lit, be in close proximity to a main road and should be busy. Where you choose to have your future dates, if any, is your call – but it’s incredibly important that your first date be somewhere neutral and public.
If someone is pressuring you to meet at their place or yours, and goes out of their way to avoid a public meeting spot, that’s a major red flag. You need to respect your own personal safety, and any potential suitor should respect that, too.
4. They Seem Way Too Good to Be True
Did you stumble across a millionaire who’s not only wildly successful, but also incredibly attractive and has the perfect thing to say in every situation? Hmm. They could be the real deal, but they might also be something else. When something, or someone, seems too good to be true – it might be that it is. You’d be wise to ask more detailed questions and get to know this person better before meeting offline – if you end up meeting at all.
5. They Get Aggressive
If you’ve been messaging back and forth with someone, but then decide you’re not really feeling it – you should know that you totally have the right to make that call. If the other party starts to get aggressive or won’t accept that you’re not interested, it’s time to let customer care know. Online dating communities should be safe, fun and easy ways to meet likeminded people. If you ever feel harassed or uncomfortable, it’s time to recognize that red flag and let the company know.
What are other red flags you can think of? Let’s work together to keep the world of online dating a safe one for us all.