4 Ways to End a Bad Date… Without Feeling Guilty
Getting stuck on a bad date is probably every dater’s worst nightmare. What will you talk about? What if you can’t stand the way they pick their teeth? There are a number of ways you can prevent getting stuck with a bad date. But, sometimes it just so happens that you need to find a way to get out of it once you’re in it. Here are 4 ways to end a bad date without feeling totally guilty… and to steer the situation ’til you reach a point where you can gracefully exit.
1. Avoid Highly Personal Conversation
If you’re already feeling that your date’s a dud, you should probably steer clear of discussing your dream wedding, the number of kids you want and all your other life ambitions. Why, you might ask? Because discussing those concepts with your date will likely make him feel like there’s a chance he might be a part of them. If there’s really no chemistry with a date, or it’s just going plain old bad, then carry on conversation with them like you would a co-worker or acquaintance. Avoid getting too personal, too intense or too involved in conversation. Keep it light, casual and airy. It’ll be less confusing when you make your dash towards the exit later on.
2. No Touching!
While it’s totally your choice, we’d advise avoiding physical contact if you’re really not feeling your date (no pun intended!). Holding his hand or letting him put his arm around you at the movies, once again, sends the wrong message. Even if he tries, it’s easy enough to turn him down without sounding rude. Simply saying “sorry, I’m not comfortable with that” is all it should take to correct the situation. Avoid saying things like, “maybe on the second date” or “I think it’s too early” because those types of comments imply there will be a second chance.
3. Be Upfront, but Don’t Be Cold
If, at the end of the night, it seems that your date has a totally different interpretation of how the night went – you need to make your feelings clear and known. If he asks to see you again, let him know that you just don’t feel that you’re compatible. You don’t have to give any more reason aside from that, so don’t feel pressured to. Some first dates are great, others are not. It’s normal if you don’t feel a spark and don’t want to see him again, so don’t sweat it.
4. Don’t Second Guess Yourself
Some women might consider giving someone a second chance, even if they felt zero attraction and the date went horribly. Stay true to your feelings and stand your ground. If you’re looking for that instant chemistry that makes you light up and never want to leave your date’s side, you obviously didn’t find it with the guy you’ve ditched. Second guessing yourself, and giving him another chance, will likely only complicate things and result in hurt feelings. Plus, your time is valuable and could be spent looking for the real Mr. Right.
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