4 Major Online Dating Mistakes You Might be Making
It can be tempting to go a little overboard when it comes to your online dating profile. Then, it can be even more tempting to take things from “sort of true” to “definitely not true” when it comes time to message a hot match. These are just two online dating mistakes that could a) leave you unsuccessful and b) seriously deter great, high quality matches.
With online dating, honesty and clarity matter. You’re putting yourself out there and trying to meet someone amazing. It’s important to remember that your “someone amazing” is doing the same… and they don’t want to waste time on a profile filled with fibs, or messaging someone who tends to share bigger-than-life tall tales.
In this post, we’re sharing 4 major online dating mistakes you should absolutely avoid at all costs. Avoiding them will improve your odds at meeting Mr (or Ms) Right and will help you skirt any awkward conversations down the road.
1. Don’t Use an Outdated Photo
Using an outdated photo, especially something that’s been scanned or clearly from 10 years ago when image quality was much lower, is an immediate red flag to potential suitors. Always opt for a photo that was taken within the last two years. Anything older can, and should, be considered outdated and should be left off your profile.
2. Don’t Spend Too Much Time Thinking Up a Clever “About Me”
Remember that time in high school or college when you obsessed so much over a writing assignment, or rewrote it so many times, that it ended up worse than when it started? The same goes for your online dating profile. It’s obvious when you come across a profile belonging to someone who’s straight up trying too hard. Plus, the profiles end up reading a lot more like a clearly thought-out essay rather than a natural portrayal of who that person is as a person.
3. Don’t Feel Pressured to Reply to Every Single Message
When messages start rolling in, especially at the beginning, it can be tempting to hit “reply” straight away. Even if you’re not all that into every single profile. Doing this, however, typically results in even more messages… and you don’t have time to waste on people you’re really not interested in. So, don’t feel pressured to reply to every single message you receive. If you are interested in someone, however, never hesitate to hit reply. You never know where the conversation could lead!
4. Don’t Expect The Perfect Match to Do all the Work
Chivalry may or may not be dead, but that really doesn’t matter in the world of online dating. You can’t simply sit back and expect your “perfect” someone to do all the work and find you. Online dating is a two-way street and you’ve got to put in the effort if you want to find success. Keep your profile updated, swap out your profile picture now and again, and make the first move once in a while. Because, dear friend, if you expect the other person to do all the work and they think you should do all the work… you’ll probably never end up messaging or meeting at all. Nobody likes a game of online dating “chicken”.
Can you think of any other online dating mistakes people often make?