“What is your opinion on ‘not being too desperate’ by accepting dates right away vs. playing hard to get? How available should a girl be towards a guy she likes? You want to appear interested, but not desperate. Where’s the fine line? “
“I think I look like “the girl next store”..sweet, etc. So many times the guy on my first dates tell me way too much about himself..stuff like when his dog died and how sad he felt, who was the first women he slept with (small world I knew her). How his grandmother died and how bad he felt. All stuff that is too heavy. Is it me or am I just dating the wrong type of guys? I would love to meet a guy who just made me laugh the whole date.”
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Of course, some are less “bad” than others.
In 2005, I went on a first date to a Mexican restaurant for dinner. (That was the first mistake. You can always add dinner, but you can’t take it back.)
My date was, for lack of better words, pretty darn boring.
I consider myself to be an engaging person who can talk to just about anyone, but there were silences, and awkward ones at that. As I tore through my fajitas, I was planning in my head what I would say for the next half an hour at least.
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You meet a former colleague for lunch to talk about the side project you two have been working on in your very limited spare time. And then after a full day of executing some of your creatively fulfilling ideas, you head home — only to find your live-in lover in the exact same spot you found him/her the day before and the day before that: the couch.
“What is your opinion on if the girl should wait for the guy to contact her first? I typically feel that when a girl contacts the guy first the guy loses interest as the “chase” is over and it gives them the “power” and “control” over the girl. I feel it seems desperate for a girl to contact the guy first.”